Have you ever borrowed something from a friend and told them that you would give the item back by a certain time?
For example, you find a sofa online and contact the person selling it, BUT you don’t have a truck. So you ask a friend if you can borrow his truck. Your friend says “Sure, no problem. I just need my truck back by 2:00 so I can pick up mulch at the garden supply store.”
As you’re driving to pick up the sofa, the seller texts you that their kid’s soccer game is running longer than expected so they won’t be home for another hour. You think … “ok, I can still make this work.”
The seller finally gets home and shows you to the sofa … It’s buried in their basement under a pile of boxes filled with old college textbooks.
You are burning through time, and you need get this sofa uncovered, carried up and loaded into the truck, drive back across town, unload the sofa into your house, and get the truck back to your friend in time.
How do you feel?
Anxious?
Stressed?
Frustrated?
Being in debt leads to these feelings. We want to get our friend’s truck back to them as soon as possible because we want to be the trustworthy friend and don’t want to be embarrassed when we see them next at next week’s neighborhood cookout.
The challenge with credit cards, student loans, and other sources of debt is we don’t have a relationship with the lender, so our urgency to pay these back, decreases. We don’t see a person we owe every time we go to the mailbox. But the underlying feelings of stress and anxiety are there when we are notified that our next payment is due, or worse, past due. The only person these debts hurt is ourselves.
Personal consumer debt and credit cards are still relatively new in our economy. Visa and MasterCard didn’t exist until the late 1950’s and that’s also when student loans started being offered.
From 1950 to 2020, the average person’s debt increased more than 10 times to over $13,000.
So how do we start tackling our debt?
We need to get to the root cause of what makes us want to spend money. Remember our Beliefs impact our behaviors which impact our results.
If we believe we will be less anxious and less stressed with less debt, we will implement new behaviors and get different results.
Sometimes it takes radical thinking and changes in behavior.
Consider cutting up your credit cards.
Or put them in a plastic bag, put the bag in a bowl, fill the bowl with water and put it in the freezer. You’ll need to wait until the ice melts before you take the credit card back to the store.
Or force yourself to wait one hour for every dollar that the item costs. So wait 50 hours or two days for the $50 item you think you must have.
How could we save money to put towards paying off debt?
Lower the thermostat in the winter and layer on more clothes.
Up the thermostat in the summer.
Cut back on dining out. (Bonus tip, food is a huge budget buster, and you’ll probably make healthier choices in the process.)
Drop some streaming services.
Consider a smaller cable package or get rid of cable all together.
Scale back that vacation.
Do those sound hard? How badly do you want freedom from debt? How important is less anxiety and less stress? Think about the opportunity cost and what you’re giving up now and in the future by taking on new debt. What is truly most important to you?
Now I know you want that freedom, so you make some of those hard choices. How do you use the money you’ve saved to start tackling your debts? You can use a debt snowball. The more it rolls, the more it picks up speed and knocks out along the way. How do you start a debt snowball?
First, list all your debt balances from smallest to largest. Check out the debt record worksheet that can be downloaded from the resource section.
Second, take the money you have found in your spending plan from those hard choices you made and put that towards your smallest debt first. Let’s say your smallest debt is a store credit card that you owe $350 on, and you’re making the minimum monthly payment of $15. If you were able to find $100 a month from those choices you made, you will pay $115 on this store credit card, and within 4 months that store credit debt will be eliminated. Keep paying the minimum payments on your other debts.
When you have paid off that smallest debt, you then start working on the next smallest debt with the minimum payment PLUS the money you now have from paying off the store credit card. Let’s say the next smallest debt is a $500 medical bill and you are paying the $20 minimum monthly payment. You now pay $20 PLUS the $115 you have from paying off the store credit card for a total of $135, and that medical bill is paid off in 5 months. Keep paying the minimum payments on your other debts.
You just keep replicating that process, growing that debt snowball one debt at a time until all your debts are paid off.
What are some ways you can stay out of debt and avoid accumulating new debt?
First, keep $1,000 in an emergency fund. Think of this emergency fund like debt insurance… That $1,000 is there when the unexpected happens so you don’t have to reach for the plastic.
Second, pay cash as much as possible. If necessary, use a debit card. We gain awareness when we see that money is leaving our pocket. You may say, “Oh I can use a credit card and not have any issues.” But when a credit card is used
- for groceries you are likely to spend 30% more,
- fast food purchases increase by nearly 50%, and
- your spending on non-essential items more than doubles.
Having an emergency fund and no debt gives you confidence and moves you towards a life of freedom.
In the next video we’ll discuss priorities that can be planned for since we have now started several good practices. These priorities are having a 3-6 month emergency fund, retirement, buying or paying off a home, and saving for your children’s education.
Making better decisions will lead you to a life of joy and contentment.